Health of The Helper
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The 'Helper' is a parent, caregiver, social worker, teacher and any other member of the public interacting with a child or young person in any given moment. It also includes policy makers.

To ensure dramatic, positive change in the lives of the future generation, it is important that we embrace how vital the psychological environment provided by parents, carers and other people in children and young people’s lives is to their healthy emotional, mental and psychological growth and development; and in preventing the development of behaviour related problems.

The psychological environment is important for both the 'helper', infant, children and young people. It is especially crucial for babies as the Common Sense approach highlights that infants have a more developed ability to feel, and that they need to receive feelings of love emanating from their helpers to assist them in their own emotional and psychological development. It is also important around young people.

Consequently, when parents, carers, teachers and the other significant people in the children's lives are stressed out and/or are carrying negative thoughts and emotions like anger, sadness, fear, and insecurity; or have low self-esteem, negative self-image, or are judgemental, these negative states will trigger a chain reaction of biological and chemical processes in the helpers' body that will impact their own emotional, mental and psychological health and well-being. Without intending or knowing it the helpers will inadvertently transmit these negatives to the children - like passive smoking. This can be so damaging to children and young people right from the time they are born in that:-

  1. It prevents the parents and carers from transmitting to the infant the feeling of love they require to regulate their internal systems for healthy emotional, mental and psychological growth and development.
  2. It also diminishes the parent or carer's ability to listen to, communicate with and support children and young people.
  3. Can also lead to the child developing feelings of insecurity and negative feelings and thoughts about themselves  that will trigger a chain reaction of biological and chemical stressors that will affect the child's brain, physical, emotional and physiological regulations, growth and development; including their natural ability to regulate their own stress levels. This we refer to as 'conditioned feelings of insecurity'.
  4. In addition, it can result in children and young people developing negative, self-destructive mindsets, i.e. learned habits of thinking or conditioned learning.  Children and young people can begin to look at themselves, other people and the world in a negative, unproductive way that can be very detrimental to the individual and to society.


Such environments do not only damage the child's emotional, mental, physical and psychological health and well-being, it can also lead to difficulties in relating and problems with achieving in later life.

We discuss these in this section under the following subheadings:


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